Overcoming Negative Feeling

Have you ever feel inadequate about a situation? Did you ever face a situation where you cannot change? I totally understand the feeling of not able to change anything sucks.

I believe there are times where you are down, and you just can’t bring yourself to do anything. You probably feel hurting emotionally, maybe physically. Your thoughts are flowing but all towards the negative manner. You are frustrated with life or yourself. Question like why life is so unfair or why this is happening to me pops up.

Before you know it, you are feeling worse than 5 minutes ago. You are spiraling downwards but you don’t know where it will end. It seems like it ain’t going to stop. It keeps getting worse, you feel like giving up. All you want to do whole day is to laze around the house, watching at the TV box or head to the bed although you had enough sleep.

If you do not break the cycle, this will continue on and on. Everything seems normal to other people, but deep down you know you don’t feel good. Your friends or family may not notice the changes because in the initial stage, it’s too mild to be noticed. Yet it’s at that stage, you need to arrest the issue to prevent yourself from spiraling downwards.

I do understand that feeling, because I was at that stage before. Don’t feel like doing anything, I know I don’t feel good but I just don’t want to do anything about it. Do you have that same feeling?

So if you ever fall into that state, what can you do to help yourself?

Acknowledge Those Feelings

No amount of positive thinking can help you when you don’t admit that you are feeling lousy. Be absolutely honest with yourself. Tell yourself that you know that you are not at your best. This process is exactly like making a correction.

Before you make a correction, you must first know the mistake. Before you find your way out of a jungle, you must first know where you are. You must acknowledge that you made a mistake or you are lost.

Go within yourself, find out what’s that feeling. Quietly tell yourself that you know you are feeling this way. Tell yourself you can’t be in this state for too long, it’s does not support you in your growth. What do you do after acknowledging? Coming up next is an irony step.

Indulge In Those Feelings

Once you acknowledge in those feelings, be with those feelings for a while. Allow yourself to laze around, feel sad, sleep as much as you want.

Hey, hey, hey, isn’t it time to wake up? No, No, No, don’t wake up yet. In fact, don’t feel good yet.

Imagine if you are crying, and when you are asked to laugh suddenly, will you be able to do that?

Yup, when you are spiraling downwards, telling yourself you are feeling better is not going to help. so indulge in it, allow yourself to do everything that amplify that feeling. Your body and emotion is not going to recover immediately even after you pump all the positive quotes into it. Let yourself enjoy the spiral feeling.

But there’s a catch here. After you acknowledge that feeling, tell yourself how long do you want to indulge in that feeling. Tell yourself you need one or two days to be with that feeling. Make it a commitment you will be finish after that one or two days.

It is very important that you don’t take this to more than two days. The further you are down, the harder to climb back up. In my experience, one day is the best bet. Indulge fully in that feeling for one day, then cut it, which move us to the last stage.

Do Something

Indulge in that one full day and it’s time to let it go. When time is up, time is up. Go out there and do something. Go for a run, head to the gym, call someone, make a sales call, write an article, read a book etc. Do anything that contribute to others or personal growth.

Motion creates emotion. By taking good action, it creates good emotion. As long as you complete one good action, go out to celebrate. Hold your fist tightly and say YES.

The above steps is what I do when I was down, though I wasn’t down for lot of time. I hope this will support those who has the same experience.